Category: Dating and Relationships
Hey all,
When you are first dating someone, does the aprooval of your parents matter? Would you bring him/her to meet the folks, or would you rather hide it from them. If they don't like him/her, what would your reaction be? I am luckey because I have very awesome parents, who respect my wishes and desires, and know that who ever I love is who I am going to be with. Luckey for me though, they love Radio man, so I have no worries!
Hmm well if my parents disapproved I would definately ask why and decide whether or not I should take their concern seriously... Mama once told me she didn't approve of a bi fella I was seeing, there was something about him that wasn't quite right, I listened but didn't end the relationship ..it turned out he was a user who had already defrauded his previous lover for £500!...
I've never dated before, but if I did, I think it would be important for my parents to know something about that person. If they wanted to meet him, I would invite him over. My mom's usually a pretty good judge of character, and if she said she felt weird about him, I'd respect that and if she's right, his behavior toward me would confirm that, so I'll know to end it if necessary. So in other worlds, I would consider her thoughts on who I'm dating, but I would also make my own choice on the relationship. But, well, I'm just saying that now, but I heard when you're in love thoughts like that change. SO maybe people who have already dated would be better answering this question. *smiles* But I would still ask and consider my parents's and maybe other family/friends' opinion.
Leilani
I agree with ya tinker. I take what they have to say in to consideration, but wati and see what would happen.
Hmm you can end up with too many opinions and your friends are not always the best people to ask...
well its better if your date meets your parents because that shows that he/she is okay with it and has no bad intentions to you. so he/she wont mind meeting your folks. well its up to you. but sometimes its better if not all your dates meet your parents just the okay ones haha and theres a big advantage to it if your parents meet your date then they will most likely to trust you to go out with that person and they will think that your mature enough because you took the responsibility to let them know who your dating.
No. I don'T care what they think. To me, it does not matter. I mean ... it depends on the age. Now I am 18. Even when I was 16 it didn't matter to me. Maybe it would have mattered if I had my first BF with ... 12 or 13, but I had my first relationship (internet relationship) with 16, and there I did not care what my parents said.
I don't care but I will listen objectively to their opinions. Fortunately my parents really like Ines, so it's all good
Yeah listening objectively is always good.
Well, as I went to school some 500 miles away from home my parents didn’t get to meet many of my boyfriends, grins. I agree to a large extent though that what your parents think of your partner is largely unimportant, however, if the relationship is a serious one, then it is better if your parents and your partner get on, because if they don’t, then it can make family occasions very difficult.
Agreed, my parents have usually been like "well it's your life your going to be happy with who ever you want to be" but I would like for them to get along as well!
I think though, as long as they say conservative things and not just say "oh he/she is an asswhole) or something like that (just an example), it is all right to listen. What you do is a different story then.
My Mom is a spaz generally, so she blows everything out of perportion even before she meets someone. She has a nasty habit of making preconceived oppinions about my partners with out giving them a chance, so I don't take too much stock in the things she says. I will listen, but in the end, it's ultemately my dicision. I have to live with him, she doesn't. At least all exept on the occations that she were to have to spend time with him.
if it was a serious relationship, then sure, i'd let my parents meet the person i'm with, but otherwise, no.
AGreed, Beautyful_Dorian. But my parents ... I think they like him (at least the first impression on the phone).
It's important for your folks to meet your date. Parents know a lot more than you do when you're young. But sometimes it's important to make mistakes yourself so you learn better.
It depends.